How To Have a Growth Mindset When You’re a Demotivated Mom
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Finding a career you care about might be on the list of your priorities, but on the other hand, it may not. What is important, regardless of your career choice, is that you get something more out of it. This isn’t always easy to achieve, especially with children in tow. You may think about professional development in some ways as a parent, but the duties of looking at your children can easily eat into your abilities to improve upon your career.
This is why if you are looking for the key to personal or professional development, you should work on developing a growth mindset. A growth mindset is, very simply, having a mindset where you aim to learn and develop beyond the preconceived notions of your intelligence. So what does it really take for us to achieve this mindset?
Looking at Your Motivations
Our motivation may be present and correct, or it may be far removed. Your motivations can make a big impact on how you progress within your career. Sometimes, the motivation is simple, to earn more money. A very good example of this is how dental practitioners and other medical professionals supplement their income with dermal fillers. However, in order to get to this point they have to undergo lip filler training or other extracurricular courses.
When you are looking to develop yourself in a certain way, motivation is pivotal because if you don’t have any motivation to do anything you will not. It sounds very simple, but in order to achieve anything you’ve got to have that motivation. Motivation is just as effective in increasing our performance, which, in turn, can improve our rewards.
Similarly to motivating yourself, you’ve also got to challenge yourself so you can understand your intrinsic skills. The benefits of challenging ourselves mean that we can escape the funk we are in, especially if we are stagnating in our role. It’s critical that we step out of our comfort zones. When we challenge ourselves and we succeed, this can give us an amazing boost to our sense of self, but conversely, if we challenge ourselves and do not achieve what we set out to, we could easily view ourselves as a failure.
However, embracing the setbacks and using these adverse outcomes as lessons is critical to that growth mindset. It’s very easy for us to pay attention to the negative parts of things, especially if our home life is a non-stop rollercoaster. As parents, we can all feel that we’re not doing our best because we’re not functioning quite right. Therefore, if we experience some form of setback, this can trigger a chain reaction that can easily impact our pride or even our faith in our abilities.
It’s about changing your perspective of the event in question. When things go wrong, we’ve got to remember that these are things in life that will occur. Rather than celebrating these failures in your mind by letting them replay in your mind, you should instead extract the lessons from what went wrong, so you can either refine your goals or use the failures to help you reassess what you can do better next time.
Surrounding Yourself With Positive Influences
You should gravitate toward people that have a growth mindset. As parents, we can all feel like we are one of the same and that our challenges blend into one another. We must remember that if we are feeling like we’re trapped in a never-ending cycle of monotony or we’re not able to break out of our preconceived notions of ourselves, we’ve got to find people that view us differently.
This may mean venturing off the beaten track and looking beyond your friend group for people who have a support network. In terms of your career, you can easily find people with the same type of mindset on LinkedIn. Networking is fantastic, not just for you to find people who have a growth mindset, but it can help you start to visualize your life in another way. You can be yourself or someone that takes risks when you didn’t before.
The toughest thing for us as parents is that we need to have some sense of consistency for the sake of our children, but the problem is that this can fly in the face of the people we surround ourselves with. The trick is if you want to craft a new life for yourself and think about the big changes you wish to make, you’ve got to keep it on the down low. Unveiling something you’ve spent years preparing means people can’t pick holes in your logic!