How to Attract the Love of Your Life by Dottye Blake

It’s very simple, but some people won’t believe it. If you want love from another, if you want the perfect mate, you first have to LOVE YOURSELF!!! The reason for this is that our thoughts attract to us exactly what we think we deserve. If we love ourselves, we will attract a good partner. If we don’t love ourselves, we will attract an unsuitable partner, perhaps an abuser. I know- I am a survivor of domestic violence, and I didn’t love myself until just a few years ago.

The Universe is governed by one great law-the Law of Attraction in the Thought World. You may have heard the saying “As above, so below!” Its manifestations are numerous. This law is as mighty as the sub-atomic force that holds atoms together, or the law of gravity that attracts bodies to the earth. This mighty law draws to us the things we desire or the things we fear; it makes or breaks our lives. There is a formless “thinking stuff” from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe. A thought, in this substance, produces the thing that is imaged by the thought. We can form things in our thoughts, and, by impressing our thoughts upon formless substance, we can cause the things we think about to be created. In order to do this, we must pass from the competitive to the creative mind. We must form a clear mental picture of the things we want, and hold this picture in our thoughts with the fixed PURPOSE to get what we want, and the unwavering FAITH that we will get what we want, closing our minds against all that may tend to shake our purpose, dim our vision, or quench our faith. In addition to all this, we shall now see that we must live and act in a certain way.

Thought is the only power that can produce tangible results-love, money, etc When we come to see that Thought is a force- a manifestation of energy having a magnet-like power of attraction, we will begin to understand the “Why” of many things that have previously remained hidden. We will understand the truth of something said to me by the owner of a diner- my first “boss”. “You get what you expect!” she said. Had I seen the wisdom of this as a 15 year old, my life could have been much different. Due to early conditioning, I had come to expect the worst in life. Most of the time, my worst fears were manifested, until I changed my thinking and my self-image.

If you are a “baby-boomer” like myself, you will remember a song by the Beach Boys that came out in the late 1960’s. It was called “Good Vibrations”. When we think, we send out vibrations of a fine ethereal substance. These vibrations are just as real as the vibrations (waves) of light, heat, electricity, TV and radio broadcasting frequencies, and magnetism that we take for granted. That these vibrations are not evident to our five senses is not proof that they do not exist. A powerful magnet will send out vibrations and exert a force sufficient to attract to itself a piece of steel weighing hundreds of pounds; but, we cannot see, hear, taste, feel or smell the mighty force. Likewise, these thought vibrations cannot be seen, felt, smelled, tasted or heard in the ordinary way; although it is true that some persons are very sensitive to psychic impressions and perceive these powerful thought-waves. Many people can truthfully say that they have felt the thought vibrations of others, both while in the presence of the sender and at a distance. Telepathy and its kindred phenomena are very real!

If you have read this far, you are seeking a way to make a permanent change in your life for the better. Perhaps you have been leading your life “under a dark cloud” of bad luck and misfortune. Maybe you have gone to bed crying or angry at the Universe, shaking your fist at the “Powers that Be” and saying “Why me? What did I do to deserve all this?”. You want to make a change. That change starts with the man or woman in the mirror- yourself. In order to change your negative thinking, you must get into the proper mindset To do this, you must do three things, and do them whole-heartedly:

1. FORGIVE YOURSELF for your past mistakes. You are only human. Look at yourself with kind eyes. Yes, you have been a “Mistake Maker”, but you are now learning to be a “Mistake Breaker”. Negative people like to throw others’ mistakes in their faces. Don’t let them hold you back. Face them square on and look them in the eyes and tell them “Yes, I’ve been a mistake-maker, but now I am a mistake breaker”. Look in the mirror and tell this to yourself, at least once a day.

2. FORGIVE OTHERS for any injustices that they have committed against you.

No strings attached; no ifs, ands, buts, or maybes You are forgiving others not for their sakes, but for your own, so that you can move on with your new life. This is not easy. I remember as a little girl watching a “public service” type of TV ad- I forget exactly what it was trying to promote. The ad was about a grizzled old ranch owner who dealt with trespassers, cattle rustlers, and those less fortunate in society the same way: “Hang him- it will teach him a lesson “; “String him up- it will teach him a lesson”.

One day, the ranch owner went to meet his maker, and stood before the Judgment Seat with much fear and trepidation, as he now realized how mercilessly he had treated others who were only trying to survive. Finally, judgment from “above” was pronounced on the ranch owner : “Forgive him- it will teach him a lesson”. So forgive others, even though they may have done things to you that are unforgivable. It is tough- the worst part for me was forgiving the uncle who had abused me from a very early age until he suddenly died when I was 10 years old. Almost as bad was forgiving my first husband who was violent towards my son and me. But, when you do this, you will feel that a heavy burden has been removed from your shoulders, and you can move ahead with building your new life.

3. MAKE AMENDS to those whom you have harmed, unless your making amends would harm them more. If you are familiar with a 12-step type of program for recovery from addiction, you know the value of this. You can make amends directly or symbolically- write a letter to someone you have harmed, pouring your heart out. This works for anyone with whom you have “unfinished business” but who is now deceased. As in forgiving others, this is hard. But when you do this, you will have the peace of mind of starting off your new life with a clean slate.

4. CULTIVATE AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

There is a Law of Gratitude, and you must observe the law, if you are to get the results you seek. The law of gratitude is the natural principle that action and reaction are equal, and in opposite directions.

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About The Author

Dottye Blake is a Realtor in Central Florida, and a wife, mother and grandmother. She is the published author of a book and several short stories, songs, articles and poems.

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